Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Is it safe to FLIRT?

Was browsing the Yahoo Answers thingy over lunch and came across a question that has been long beaten to death… “Is it really wrong to flirt if you are committed to someone?” Of coz the answers were all for and against and with lots more sitting on the fence.

So, would you? If you are already committed to someone?

What is flirting anyways? Bring out the dicky… ahem.. dictionary..

Flirting is defined as
1. To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2. To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.
3. To move abruptly or jerkily.

Lets for the time being forget definitions 2 and 3 yeah. So, that leaves us with playfully romantic or sexual overtures. Geez.. a bit tricky there... coz everything is relative. It’s like how playful is playful.. a kitten is playful. Romantic or sexual? Some would argue that sexual will have to be showing lots of skin or touching no-no places. And being committed to someone… if just hanging out.. is not as committed as living in…which is still ok until you get everything on paper.. signed and sealed and sworn upon.. make any difference?

I think it is really one big bomb ticking there if you want to play the flirting game unless you are so totally single and un-committed to anyone. Even if they were to have designed a flirt meter to wear around your neck, doing the settings or configurations will take days and at the end of it, you are still without a so call safe flirt limit. The range will be still “totally harmless” to “you are so dead when we get home dear”.

I think flirting is really inevitable. It is human nature and some do it more flamboyantly than others. My verdict is “ Yeah.. sure.. flirting is a-OK but just don’t hurt anyone when you are doing it… especially yourself!


zewt said...

someone (a girl) once told me that 'harmless flirting' is ok... haha... she landed herself in a "BIG" pile of shit some time later....

but you're right... there is no right or wrong... but it's not about ensuring that you dont hurt anyone... it's about respecting your partner.

if you wanna know whether it's ok to flirt or otherwise... just ask yourself whether you want your partner to flirt too.

Unknown said...

I quite agree with the last part of your comment... do onto others what you would like others to do onto you...